You are in surgery and do not know what is going on or how long you are there. The medical staff is working away and they get lost in a time warp too. But your loved ones are sitting in a waiting room waiting for news of how you have fared from the serious surgery you are undertaking.
The stress they are under can be really difficult, especially when your operation is a serious one. Your loved ones need to be prepared. They should ask roughly how long surgery is likely to take. They might have to sit in the waiting room for many hours and should consider taking a thermos, sandwiches, and fruit. It could be a long wait and they need to keep up their energy.
Make sure that prior to surgery, you and your loved ones have asked the medical team a bunch of questions. Have an idea of how long the operation is likely to take and what are the possible outcomes (both good and bad).
They should have phone numbers of other family members at hand so that they can inform them of the outcome too. Serious illness is of concern to so many people; don’t forget them at this traumatic time.
I was in surgery for 7 hours and my husband had begun to panic. He was sure something had gone wrong. Luckily for him a nurse he knew came past and she went and checked on how I was going. He was very relieved to hear that everything was progressing well and I would soon be in recovery.
If you would like to know more about how we all coped with my serious surgery, you can read it in my book, ‘Thank God I Had a Stroke’
Tips and Hints
Be prepared. Ask questions. Have an idea how long surgery will take. Have food and drink with you to keep you refreshed. Preparation will make things easier in the long run.