When we are struck by a serious illness all we can do initially is to think about how to survive. We have to cope with pain, fear, anxiety, depression and a sense of the unknown. Yet midst all of this we have to cope day by day and personnel goal setting can help tremendously.
There is no question in my mind that setting goals (no matter how small) is the key to recovery. It may be as simple as being able to walk 20 steps, or go to the bathroom unaided. It may be that you can eat a small meal or hold a conversation with a loved one.
As your health improves your goals can be larger and more complex. Preparing a meal for the family by yourself, doing the shopping, doing the laundry etc. Then you may go even further; attending a meeting, writing in your social media, reading, writing a letter – and so it goes on.
By personnel goal setting each day, each week, each month. You will feel good when you are able to reach your goals and feeling good (and positive) will help you to cope and recover more quickly. Get your family to help you reach your goals – if they are not even aware that you have a goal, they may actually try to stop you from doing something e.g. “I will cook the meal – you stay and rest’.
One goal I have set myself is to speak to organisations about my ordeal and hopefully enthuse and encourage others who may also be suffering, or are caregivers looking after ill loved ones.
You may like me to speak to a group that you are in contact with.
TIPS AND HINTS
Create goals for yourself as soon as possible after you have discovered that you have a serious illness. Keep a record of the goals set and when you reach them. Give yourself a huge, mental ‘pat on the back’ each time you meet a goal. You deserve it!