When you are about to have serious surgery your family are often more traumatized than you are. You need to take action to ensure that regardless of the outcome, they know just how much you care for them.
Of course you will discuss the forthcoming operation and perhaps even talk about the possible scary scenarios. But many just do not want to talk about the possible outcomes and keep everything inside.
This is not only not good for you; it is really bad for your loved ones. It is true that some close people to you may not be able to cope with such a discussion. When I was operated on to remove my brain tumour, my Mum (who lived with me and I was her carer) aged 91 would not have been able to cope with the full story. So my husband kept her informed with as little of the details as possible. She certainly was not told that the operation was life threatening or that I could be left with a multitude of problems after surgery.
What I did was write a letter to all my loved ones, reminding them of happy days that we had shared. I did not dwell on the surgery, but wanted them to think of me in a very happy and positive way. My husband said it was the most beautiful gift he could have received at such a time.
Tips and Hints
Try to keep the spirits up of your loved ones; it will help keep your spirits up too. Remind them of the great times you have shared with them. Such memories can certainly take the edge of the trauma about to take place with your serious surgery.