When you suffer from a serious illness it is important for you to move forward and get past the trauma you have experienced. You may be changed forever, either physically or emotionally and it is important to know how to overcome your adversity.
When I suffered from both a stroke and a brain tumour at the same time, I was in a state of shock and really did not feel the gut wrenching hysteria that many experience. I don’t know why as everything pointed to a life and death situation, especially as the tumour was seven centimetres inside the brain and was pushing the brain stem out of alignment.
I think I was able to cope so well because I was able to see a benefit from this trauma. It helped me to be more goal orientated to reach milestones that may be difficult to reach, but were possible. I realised that something good always comes from every bad thing that happens to us. We do not necessarily see what this can be at first – but it does happen.
Believing that there is a silver lining to all adversity made me keen to find just what my silver lining would be. The first think I had to do was to stay positive and not fret and feel depressed about what was happening to me.
Secondly, I found it important to think of others and try to help them. This began for me while I was still in hospital as I tried to help fellow patients. I was quite successful in a number of cases and even the medical staff commented on how I was able to be supportive for them. The more involved you are with considering others and their problems, the less time you have to worry about your own situation.
I found setting goals and challenges was a good way for me to not only move forward but to be able to measure just how I was progressing. The more I achieved, the more I wanted to achieve. Instead of worrying about what I could no longer do, I concentrated on what I could do. This was an enormous relief for me and made me think and feel positive.
How to overcome adversity may be different for each person. But it is important to have a plan and work towards reaching it. Do this and you will remain a well balanced person who can reach great levels of recovery from most serious illnesses.
You may like to listen to and watch a webinar that I made on this topic, or you can read my book ‘Thank God I Had a Stroke’ to follow my story on just what I went through and how I overcame the many problems I experienced.
Tips and Hints
You can help yourself to overcome your adversity by setting goals and reaching them; by having a plan and following it; by helping others and concentrating less on your own misfortunes; and by remaining positive and determined at all times.