Many people when suffering from a serious illness do not want to know what’s the worst that can happen to them. But it is important to face the reality and then to accept it. Of course you keep fighting the illness and you will try many new procedures and medication that you never thought you would.
But, the bottom line is, that you must stay as positive as you can and have hope in your heart. Doctors don’t like to scare patients, but they should make the patient fully aware of the possible problems they might have to face, as quickly as possible.
If the patient is aware of the consequences of surgery, they could then be saved from severe shock if they later discover something that is really hard to accept. One of the patients in hospital at the same time as I was, was told that his brain tumour could not be operated on and that he only had around 12 months to live.
The very next day this patient was telling his friends that he was going to fight it and also was taking his family on a holiday NOW so that they had a lovely memory to call on. I am not sure how much he was told before surgery, but I do know that he had a very caring and kind surgeon. I know this, because he had the same surgeon as I did.
You can learn more about this courageous young man and how he coped with his trauma.
TIPS AND HINTS
Don’t hide your head in the sand. Ask as many questions as you can think of when you have a serious illness. Have your close loved ones ask questions too. Something as simple as ‘how long is the surgery likely to take’ can prepare those waiting for news of your operation, to come prepared with some healthy food and a thermos of tea, thus making their wait more bearable.