How Much Do You Want to Know When Suffering From a Serious Illness?

want to knowMany people when suffering from a serious illness do not want to know what’s the worst that can happen to them. But it is important to face the reality and then to accept it. Of course you keep fighting the illness and you will try many new procedures and medication that you never thought you would.

But, the bottom line is, that you must stay as positive as you can and have hope in your heart. Doctors don’t like to scare patients, but they should make the patient fully aware of the possible problems they might have to face, as quickly as possible.

If the patient is aware of the consequences of surgery, they could then be saved from severe shock if they later discover something that is really hard to accept. One of the patients in hospital at the same time as I was, was told that his brain tumour could not be operated on and that he only had around 12 months to live.

The very next day this patient was telling his friends that he was going to fight it and also was taking his family on a holiday NOW so that they had a lovely memory to call on. I am not sure how much he was told before surgery, but I do know that he had a very caring and kind surgeon. I know this, because he had the same surgeon as I did.

You can learn more about this courageous young man and how he coped with his trauma.


Don’t hide your head in the sand. Ask as many questions as you can think of when you have a serious illness. Have your close loved ones ask questions too. Something as simple as ‘how long is the surgery likely to take’ can prepare those waiting for news of your operation, to come prepared with some healthy food and a thermos of tea, thus making their wait more bearable.

35 thoughts on “How Much Do You Want to Know When Suffering From a Serious Illness?

  1. Ven

    I agree – you need to know everything you can about surgery. That way, you don’t get any nasty surprises, and get over the operation quicker.

  2. Chris W.

    Great points! Ignorance is not bliss. A patient needs to know what they are facing and to ask the right questions, so they can prepare their family, themselves, and get a better outcome.

  3. Lisa Perkins

    I think that you are my new “Hero”….. I absolutely agree with you 100%, and I would look at a Serious Illness with my Eyes and Ears wide open as well!!!

  4. Debbie Boulier

    I totally agree, I mean it’s your body and your life…so ask as many questions as it takes until you feel more or less comfortable with the thought of having surgery. Plus I believe you heal quicker too if you go in with a good positive attitude, less trauma to the body.

  5. Jack

    I have never had a serious operation but now after reading this if I do have one I will ask many question and try to educate myself the best that I can. It makes sense to learn as much as I can even if it is not great things that I am learning can happen.

  6. Samantha R.

    Very true. If you can keep going and be strong rather than being negative about it you’ll get through what you never thought possible and it just makes you stronger.

  7. Ana B.

    I agree: asking questions is a great way to get the facts on a serious illness you’re dealing with. Ask as many as possible: better safe than sorry!

  8. jack r

    Sadly my father was a very hard headed man, and he didn’t think he needed to tell anyone about his pain that he was having. We eventually took him to the doctor and found out he had a brain tumor.

  9. shei

    If I found out that I have some serious illness I’m sure I will be scared and worried but still I want to know about it so I can do something about it. and you’re right staying positive would help too

  10. Jane

    Serious illness is a massive concern. This is our life. We all should be well informed about surgery and surgeon should declare all risks.

  11. Gary Roberts

    When you are faced with a serious illness having a compassionate, caring physician is paramount. It’s tough enough to deal with a disease that is threatening your life, so having a great support system is imperative. Having friends, family etc; your personal medical team is a plus!

  12. jeff fisher

    Interesting article, its always useful information for my father who`ve had a stroke in the past.

  13. Jay

    It is very important that you get educated on this topic. It can happen to anyone. Its better to be prepared now than sorry later!

  14. Sandra Harriette

    I think that a big part of the reason so many of us struggle to recover and thrive is because we are too afraid to go to that deep dark place where things are scary and where they hurt. I admire your ability to point right to your pain because I think that’s what makes you strong.

  15. Tim Johnson

    I agree with you completely, you’ve got to ask questions because you are going to want to know information. Good article!

  16. caitlin

    Great article. When dealing with any serious illness it is highly important to stay as informed as possible.

  17. beth

    great advice here…i’m guilty of burying my head in the sand when it comes to asking the important questions, especially when it comes to bad news.

  18. desmond

    This is exactly what friends and love ones need to see awesome way to reach out to let some people wat their up for :):):)

  19. Wanda

    I agree with you! My sister in law had a life threatening illness that she fought for 7 years until she succumbed to it, but in those 7 years she lived life to the fullest and I admired her for that.

  20. rose

    With the possibility of hearing very bad news of an illness one might have, wanting to know everything can really seem like a scary thing. But in the end, I think it is the best way to go. With medicine and faith you just might overcome….

  21. Abbie Dawne

    It’s very important to be as informed as you can be when it comes to your condition/care. It will make your life so much easier!

  22. Joey E

    My granddad is at that age in his life where he doesn’t exactly grasp what the doctors are telling him. My dad as taken resposbility in talking with the doctor on my granddads behalf. The most important thing my dads told me was. ASK QUESTIONS. if you don’t ask you don’t konw. So its nice too see an article on that subject.

  23. MBW

    It’s so important to know everything when it comes to surgery because if you and your family don’t you may find yourself kicking your own butt in the end or better yet your own family could pay the consequences.

  24. Sharon

    I think it is important to ask every question you may think is relevant; including ones that may not seem so at the time. In the event (God forbid) if there are complications, there are things you, your family, or potential caregivers need to know. Also, I think it is the aftercare that will be most important.

  25. Arshnul

    Never had a serious operation, but now after reading this if I have one that will ask many questions and try to educate myself as best I can. It makes sense to learn as much as you can, even if it’s not that I’m learning great things can happen.

  26. Noan Reelie

    This is such a sensible way of seeing things! I really appreciate that you added that part about helping those waiting for the news by asking how long the procedure will take. We often forget that we aren’t the only one’s suffering in these situations and that our families need to be thought of too.


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