But more than a ‘feel good’ sensation, you will also be healing your own wounds. Whether you are recovering from a serious illness or from a marriage break up, you heal faster if you spend more time caring for others.
You can help others wherever you are. Sometimes just being a good listener helps another suffering soul. If you feel confident you may even be able to give some relevant advice.
When I was in hospital suffering from a stroke and a brain tumour, it would have been so easy just to concentrate on my own misgivings and problems. Of course I was concerned about how I would cope and what the future held for me. But as soon as I was able I looked around at my fellow patients. The first thing I discovered was that many had much worse problems than I had. I also noticed that they often increased their own misery by being depressed, impatient, angry and miserable.
One younger lady than me (she was 50) kept her curtains drawn. I had no idea what she looked like. Her mum and two young adult sons came to visit her. But one night I heard her crying.
A friend had given me a little crystal angel to look after me while I was in hospital. I spoke to a nurse and said “Tell the lady beside me that I will loan her my angle for tonight – it may help her sleep”.
She accepted it and the next morning she pulled her curtains open and began to talk to me. As well as having bleeding on the brain (and the doctors did not know why) she also had the problem of her mother not liking or accepting the new man in her life.
I was able to listen and could also tell her a story of how I coped with my mum who had caused me problems some years earlier. This lady not only seemed to stop worrying, she confronted her mum, as I had done, and all worked out for the best.
If you would like to hear how I was able to help a number of fellow patients, and consequently speed up my recovery, read my book, ‘Thank God I Had a Stroke”!
Barbara Gabogrecan sharing her thoughts
Tips and Hints
Think of others and see what you can do to help them. You will be amazed at how this can help speed up your own recovery.