When we are seriously ill we become scared, stressed and very emotional. These normal feelings we have to cape with while trying to come to terms with our illness can lead to depression. It is so important to fight depression before it sets in and takes over your body and soul.
The sort of depression I am talking about is not the chemical kind that can take you over for no apparent reason. I am referring to that awful, gut wrenching feeling of despair you have as you try to cope mentally and physically with the health problems you are having to face,
There is not one answer to suit everyone, but I find that when you set yourself a huge challenge and fight to reach it, then you are less likely to worry so much about what you are facing and will spend more time and energy on meeting your challenge. This challenge can help you fight any feelings of depression that you may be feeling
I guess setting goals is the first step e.g. being able to walk unaided; but I am talking about something much greater than this when I refer to setting a challenge. I am talking about you aiming to complete a task that seems impossible at the time. You also have to be prepared to fight to meet your challenge regardless of how long it takes you.
When I discovered that my stroke had left me with the rare condition of ‘Alexia without Agraphia’ it meant that I could not read – BUT I could still write! So I decided to write a book. I knew that this task would be awesome as it is so difficult to write something as complex as a book when you cannot read what you have written.
My husband, Peter was a godsend. As I wrote each page he read it back to me so that I could be sure I had written what I meant to. I finally succeeded with reaching my challenge two years later when the book was published.
Peter said “Meeting this challenge was the best therapy for Barbara’s recovery than anything else we tried.” Fighting depression is never simple, but setting a major challenge in your life at this time can certainly ward of the feelings of depression you are experiencing.
I have written my book around my own experiences of coping with both a stroke and a brain tumour and the depression I was feeling. At the same time I have tried to inspire and motivate others to take some of the actions that I found so helpful for my recovery. You can read a short version of what happened to me to see if you would like to read the entire book.
Hints and Tips
When ill and trying to fight off depression, aim to be productive. Set yourself a challenge that when met can make you realise that you have achieved a huge victory. You need to satisfy yourself and others that you ‘can do it’.. Reach for the stars. After all, you can do whatever you want to do; you just have to figure out ‘how’ – don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something.